The “Begrudgery” of rivalry.

Do you have a nemesis? Most of us come across someone who rubs us up the wrong way, in all walks of our life there’s always somebody that causes an unexplained irritation. Everybody needs a rival to hate.  Not in the nasty sense, but rather in the “boil our blood” kind of way. There’s an undeniable tension and the animosity of any rivalry  that should never be underestimated. If your honest you love to see them struggle and take pleasure in them failing, even better if you can be the cause of that disappointment. Everybody has an arch rival and this relationship is one of the most complex that exists. Sometimes you may have to be nice to their face but you secretly hate them. Sport has produced some of the best rivalries –  Munster vs leinster, Europe vs the USA, Nadal vs Federer ……… and the biggest GAA rivalry of all Moorefield vs Sarsfields! imageRivalries push athletes to perform beyond their own expectations and is possibly a huge factor in both Newbridge clubs dominating the Kildare championship for the last twenty years. The animosity and begrudgery of rivalry makes us work harder to beat each other.

But these fierce rivalries seem far removed from a small local 5K race. Yet even local races often produce competitors who push each other to higher levels of performance. Find a rival. They don’t even need to know they are your rival,  but find one because it will serve you well. Adversaries have past history and competition, they generally know each other well and are usually evenly matched. Runners run faster in races in which a rival is competing by almost five seconds per kilometre (Kilduff,2014). Finding someone you’re devoted to outcompeting keeps you focused on your goals and forces you to keep innovating. So find one or make one up, and hate them. Let them motivate all your hard training sessions and long runs. Dream of them struggling and suffering as you cruise by.

But it is important to remember that this rivalry can take two forms. It can mean either that you want to match someone else’s success – “Benign”, or it can be  driven by the hope the rivals’ success ends – “Malignant”. Both experiences are painful, but the  “Benign” produces a levelling up motivation; meaning you want to improve.  The “Malicious” produces a levelling down motivation, hoping that you’re opponents fail. It is only the benign form can help to create motivation to achieve goals rather than drag our nemesis down to failure (Lange & Crusius, 2015). So, rather than viewing the rival as the adversary, it can be used as the catalyst to brilliance; it can be the inspiration to become the very best runner possible. And remember when the blinders come off, old adversaries often discover without a worthy rival there would be no race in the first place.


Kilduff GJ. (2014). Driven to Win: Rivalry, Motivation, and Performance. Social Psychological and Personality Science 5, 944-952.


Lange J & Crusius J. (2015). Dispositional envy revisited: unraveling the motivational dynamics of benign and malicious envy. Pers Soc Psychol Bull 41, 284-294.







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I qualified with an Honours degree in Physiotherapy from Trinity College Dublin in 2004. Since graduating I have worked in St. James Hospital Dublin and have worked in all the areas of speciality within the hospital including cardiorespiratory, orthopaedics, rheumatology, care of the elderly, neurology, burns and plastic surgery among others . I have also completed a post graduate certificate in acupuncture in UCD 2009. The Physiotherapy Department in SJH has strong links with Trinity College Dublin (TCD) and I have supervised undergraduate and postgraduate physiotherapy students on practice placements and also delivered lectures on the undergraduate academic programme in TCD. I have a keen interest in all sports and currently plays with Cill Dara RFC 1st team squad, and Milltown GAA. I have previously worked as Physiotherapist to Co. Carlow Senior GAA Team, Milltown GAA, Leinster Junior Rugby Team and Cill Dara RFC. I am an experienced runner and competed in the Dublin City Marathon in 2002. I continue to participate in running events and multisport disciplines such as Gaelforce West, Gaelforce North and the Motivate Challenge. I have a particular interest in strength and conditioning. I utilise this knowledge of resistance training in the treatment of his clients. I am committed to continuous learning and development in order to ensure the optimal level of care is offered to my clients, and with this in mind I am currently undertaking a certification in Strength and Conditioning (CSCS) with the NSCA.

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